How to Move On From an Ex You Still Love
Table of Contents
- Introduction
- Giving Your Heart to Someone
- When the Person Changes
- Emotional Dependence
- Life Gets Completely Disturbed
- Feeling Ignored and Worthless
- Low Self-Esteem and Comparison
- Depending on One Message
- Self-Doubt and Blaming Yourself
- Sleepless Nights
- Time to Come Out of This
- A Reality Check
- You Can’t Stop Caring Suddenly
- Do They Deserve You?l
- You Deserve Better
- Accept the Reality
- Asking Allah If You Still Want Them
- Trust Allah’s Power
- Leave the Future to Allah
- A Final Dua
Introduction
Today we are going to talk about the thing which so many people are going through and suffering from a lot. And this question comes in their mind that how to move on from an ex you still love? And to get it’s answer, they go and watch videos about it, like how to heal yourself from a breakup or how to move on when you love someone.
Giving Your Heart to Someone
You know, when you give your heart to someone, you don’t even realize that you have already given your heart to them. Especially when you were in a proper relationship with that person. And then one day comes when everything ends. Maybe it ended because he don’t love you anymore, or maybe because you made some mistake due to which both of you got distant from each other.
When the Person Changes
But the thing that hurts the most is something else — that the person is no longer the same as before. I mean, that person changes. They don’t give you the same importance they used to give you. And they don’t even admit this. And you reach at such a state where you don’t understand what is happening to you.
Emotional Dependence
You start becoming very emotionally dependent on that person. While you are already hurt by that person, in the other hand when your breakup happens, it feels like that person is literally not affected at all — not even 0.1%.
Life Gets Completely Disturbed
And on this side, your whole life is disturbed. You start looking for that person in everyone. You can’t even become productive. You stop taking care of yourself.
Feeling Ignored and Worthless
And the thing that hurts the most is that the person doesn’t care at all. Meaning, you don’t matter to them anymore. And when this happens, you start feeling like maybe your value is very low. And maybe you are not even worthy of this.
Low Self-Esteem and Comparison
You go into very low self-esteem. You start thinking that the other person is very high — that they are on a very high level. They have everything. And you are very low.
Depending on One Message
Even though people are giving you so much importance, it doesn’t matter to you. You feel that if that person messages you, then you have value. But if they don’t message you, then it means you have no value at all.
Self-Doubt and Blaming Yourself
And you go into self-doubt — that maybe there was some flaw in you because of which the relationship couldn’t continue and ended. You feel that maybe there was something lacking in you, that’s why they didn’t fall in love with you.
Sleepless Nights
Now they will love someone else who is on their level, because you think you are very low. Your sleep gets disturbed. On one side, all of this is happening to you, and on the other side, that person is not affected at all and is living their life happily.
Time to Come Out of This
If you have faced all these things, then now it’s time for you to come out of all this. And trust me, I will guide you in a very easy way about what to do.
A Reality Check
Look, first of all, you need to bring this thought into your mind — that you spent so many months of your life for that person, and that person doesn’t even care about you. And you are staying awake at nights for them, crying for them.
You Can’t Stop Caring Suddenly
You cannot suddenly say to yourself that you don’t care anymore, because that is very difficult. Because you do care — and you care a lot. Your heart is broken at this time.
Do They Deserve You?
But look — does this person really deserve you, the one who brought you to this state? Will you love a person who no longer cares about you? No.
You Deserve Better
You deserve a person who loves you, whose your emotions matter to, who never emotionally drains you, and with whom you feel complete.
Accept the Reality
Now your mind will say that you also felt complete with that person. But look now — where is that person? They are gone. Accept this reality.
Asking Allah If You Still Want Them
But if you still want that person in your life and you are 100% sure, then ask Allah for it. Ask Allah to put love for you into that person’s heart. Because you know that people’s hearts are between Allah’s two fingers.
Trust Allah’s Power
Meaning, Allah can turn anyone’s heart in any direction He wants. Ask Allah with full belief: “Oh Allah, I want this person. Put love for me into their heart.”
Leave the Future to Allah
Who knows, if that person is better for you, then through your prayers they will surely come back to you. But if that person is not right for you — meaning if in the future you were supposed to get hurt by them — then maybe they won’t come into your life again. Because Allah knows the future, and we don’t.
A Final Dua
Ask Allah: “Oh Allah, if this person whom I have fallen in love with will hurt me in my future life, or affect me mentally on a deep level, or if there are family issues with them, then remove their love from my heart right now.”
And now what to do next, read in it’s part 2👇