How to Value Yourself
Table of Contents
- Introduction
- Why People Feel Low About Themselves
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
- Understand Your Unique Worth
- Trust in Allah’s Plan
- Build Your Personality and Confidence
- FAQs
Introduction
One thing you must bring into your life is this: never, ever feel low about yourself. Learning how to value yourself is the first step toward living a happy and confident life. These days, so many young people feel very low and down. They don’t live their lives the way they truly want to. They get stuck in comparison. They start thinking that others are better than them and that they are nothing. They feel jealous of others. And honestly, what does that mean? It means you are feeling very low about yourself.
If you didn’t feel low—if you truly knew your worth—would you still compare yourself like this? Would you feel so small about yourself? And why do you think you will only feel special when people like you or when people see you as important?
Look, if you hand over this power to people, then you are done. Never give control of your life to others—never.
Why People Feel Low About Themselves
And why are you comparing yourself to others and feeling low? Why do you think, “She is prettier than me,” “They act better than me,” “I am nothing”?
Why do you think like that? Forget these people, seriously. Social media is what makes us extremely insecure these days. It pushes us to our lowest points. We feel happy only when we get validation from others; otherwise, we don’t.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Now listen to me carefully. Okay, I accept that the people you compare yourself to might actually be good. But does that mean you are not good? Do you not matter? Do your feelings and your existence not matter?
Of course they do.
Understand Your Unique Worth
You must tell yourself this: every person is unique. Every person has their own value and worth. Every human being is important in their own way. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses.
So if someone is ahead of you in some things, don’t be jealous. Instead, learn from them. Think, “I can do this too.” There is no logic in jealousy. Everyone comes into this world with their own provision and destiny. What is written for someone will not be taken from you.
You must be important in your own eyes. You should like yourself. You should matter to yourself. No matter what people say, you should feel special about yourself. Your values are your values.
For example, if you are a girl and you like getting ready and dressing up, and you see that girls who dress up get attention from boys, and you also want that—but if you leave that for Allah, then even if you are not prominent in people’s eyes, you are prominent in Allah’s eyes.
And don’t judge people based on their sins, because today you see them one way, and tomorrow they might become better than you. Don’t keep grudges in your heart against people. These things mean nothing. Forgive for the sake of Allah and feel important yourself, whether people say it or not.
Trust in Allah’s Plan
Live confidently and dominantly.
Sometimes when you leave things for Allah, you start thinking, “Now I have closed these doors, where will opportunities come from? Who will make me feel important? Where will my provision come from?”
But this is exactly how Allah works. Allah says, “They left this for Me, so I will give them from places they never even imagined.”
Allah gives, truly. And Allah gives in such a beautiful way that we forget our worries and become happy again.
Build Your Personality and Confidence
Build your personality. Never beg people for attention. Never bow down in front of anyone. Live your life properly, with your head held high.
Those who left, let them go. Those who are meant for you will stay with you. There is no need to fear anyone. Live your life well. Never be jealous. Do what you feel is right. Stop caring so much about the world—this world is nothing.
Believe in yourself that you can do something. Because if people don’t believe in you and you also don’t believe in yourself, then what is left in life?
Believe in yourself and say, “Yes, I can do this.” And then do it.
Don’t criticize yourself—appreciate yourself.
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FAQs
Q1: How can I start valuing myself every day?
A: Begin by recognizing your strengths, appreciating small achievements, and avoiding comparisons with others.
Q2: What should I do if social media makes me feel insecure?
A: Limit your time, unfollow accounts that trigger negativity, and focus on your own growth.
Q3: How do I stop feeling jealous of others?
A: Shift your focus from envy to learning. Think, “I can do this too,” and take positive steps for yourself.
Q4: How can I feel important without seeking validation from others?
A: Value your own opinions, prioritize self-respect, and remember your significance in the eyes of Allah.